He represents one of the greatest fears within a relationship: the affair.Whoever is cheated feels betrayed, injured, inadequate and ashamed.One has deceived in his: his partner: in - or the strength of love -.In retrospect, cheats often ask whether they are to blame for the affair - or somehow could have prevented him.The answer to both is "no" in most cases, but you want to do everything to never experience these feelings again.And a current study comes into play.
Researchers at the University of North Carolina have examined the source of infidelity.You asked yourself: Why do some people go alien - but others don't?After all, we are all delivered more or less the same temptations.In every respect, another attractive person will run into us in the course of a life.For some, this fact is something normal and no reason for infidelity.They live according to the motto: "Getting an appetite is allowed, eating at home".However, others cannot resist the offer of attractive people out there.They go alien.The scientists wanted to find out the difference between the two groups.
For this they set subject: inside, students in permanent relationships, the attractiveness game.They were asked how much other, interesting people would be noticed.In the further course of the study, the participants were divided and their self -control was impaired in a group by tasks.Dating apps and the possibility were then presented to both groups and the possibility for a premium upgrade.And advise who does not resist the temptation?The subject: inside, to which attractive people particularly noticed, but above all those who had a low self -control.A subsequent long -term study by the university with freshly married couples who were accompanied over two years came to the same result: the partners: inside who had become unfaithful, showed a less strong self -control.
Sounds logical?Yes, but can actually help us in everyday life to better assess burgeoning relationships.The study was able to determine a connection between the ability to control self -control and infidelity.And the former we can attach to simple things long before it would come to the affair.
Your: E partner: In says that he doesn't want to drink alcohol today and go to bed early, but then comes home drunk at five in the morning (and not just once)?Doesn't he or she manage to only eat half of the ice pack - even though he or she actually wants to make a diet?We all experience these moments in everyday life.However, if the partner does not get through his project because he cannot wring himself, this can be an indication that he or she has a general problem with self -control - and cannot stop even with sweet flirt, to snack.
In general, however, you should not fall into panic just because your favorite has fallen into a penchant for ice cream - the best protection against infidelity is still a stable, balanced relationship full of love.You can find out why we believe that there are worse than cheating and how it can go after an affair.
mjd Brigitte